Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Jackson Lee Potter

Hi All,
Here is a link to Pat's Dad's Obituary. Some of you wanted to have the info for memorial donations.

http://www.lagrandeobserver.com/News/Obituaries/Obituaries-for-the-day-of-December-22-2011


Love to you all-

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to you all...near and far. We love you with all we have. May you have Peace, Laughter, Love and many Happy memories this Holiday Season.
~LOVE~
Pat, Laura, Mac, Lilly & Lil' Griff Potter

Thursday, December 22, 2011

30 Days...

It's been 30 days since my world completely stopped turning...at this very moment, 30 days ago- I was sitting on my floor in total and complete shock, rage, confusion, turmoil, heartache...I hadn't moved from the floor since getting that phone call about my Dad. My legs would not work, I was shaking like crazy and knew that I had to get up and talk to my babies about why I had been screaming and lying on the floor for over an hour. It has been the most difficult thing I have had to do so far in my life-time. Not much has changed for me on the inside in 30 days. I am not lying on the floor anymore- but the rest is still there...and there are days/times that I wish I didn't have to get up or move at all...but I know I can't give into it. I am so ANGRY about Dad's accident. I am so ANGRY that I only got 62 years with my Father, my Hero, my Rock, my Anchor in life. Why was it his time to go? I asked God to get him home safely. I know that he doesn't always answer yes to everything I ask...but I wasn't ready for my Dad to go dammit!!! I feel that I probably shouldn't post this stuff, but everyone wants to know how I am doing/feeling...and I am tired of saying that I am OK. I am not...I know that in a long while...I probably will be, but not right now. I am so sad and broken that I can't see straight or think straight. I don't know how to process all of this.
I am so ANGRY that my babies lost not just one Grandpa, but two in just a few short weeks!! WHY? I don't get it...how is it fair that Pat and I had to sit poor Mac down and say...so sorry honey, but another Grandpa didn't make it. It just plain sucks and we are all tired of hurting. The holidays will never be the same. Thanksgiving is forever marked by Dad's accident and the long and horrible days around it. Griff turned 2 on December 1st and spent it on an airplane to get to Texas to bury Grandpa Tex. Everything is just a blur...I think we have been home about 2 weeks. I have tried so hard to make things normal around here and up-beat for Christmas and the kids...if I was being graded, I would probably barely pass. Pat's dad passed away Sunday morning. I again found myself with my feet knocked right out from under me...I was barely on them anyway, but it was another blow. It's now only 3 days to Christmas and I also realized that Mac's 11th b-day is only 8 days away and I have not planned a thing for him. Then it's New Year's...I don't even want to go there right now.
I pray constantly for some relief from all this anger that I feel. I pray for just a little comfort, a little peace. I pray for strength every time Lilly looks at me with her huge brown eyes and cries "I miss Grandpa", without even knowing that she has lost another one.
I pray that each day will get easier...
I am trying...trying to be patient, trying to let go...
I am tired, so tired...but I don't sleep. I think of how bad WE ARE ALL HURTING. It's overwhelming and exhausting. I hope tomorrow is a better day. I am so thankful for my kids and Pat. I get up every day for them right now...I make myself do all the things that need doing for them right now. I have not a clue where I'd be without them.
I sure hope tomorrow is a better day. Love you all-

Monday, December 19, 2011

Rest in Peace Grandpa Jack. He passed away yesterday morning from a heartache. He leaves behind 4 children- Kelly, Tim, Pat & Sherry and 10 Grandchildren. Please pray for everyone...we are hurting from my Dad's passing and now Jack's. For those of you that will see Lilly over the next few days/weeks...we are not telling her about this right now. It's too much for her. Mac does know because he is to old to hide this from. This is a very difficult time for all of us. We appreciate all your prayers.

Friday, December 16, 2011

In Loving Memory of Jerry Mac Griffis

I wanted to share my Dad's obituary with those of you that don't live in Texas and didn't have access to a local newspaper. I also included my tribute to him. I know that all of you that knew my Dad will be moved by it.

In loving memory of Jerry Mac Griffis.
Born August 9th, 1949 in Brady Texas.
Died November 22nd, 2011 in Payson, Utah.
Proceeded in death by his parents, John and Clara Griffis.
He is survived by his two children:
Laura Griffis-Potter and husband Pat of Sandy, OR. and
John Allen Griffis II of San Marcos, Tx.
Three grandchildren:
Mac, Lilly Belle, and Lil' Griff Potter of Sandy, Or.
One brother:
Johnny Griffis and wife Lola Kay of Alpine, Tx.
Two sisters:
Sharon Griffis Coody and husband Joe of Pecos, Tx.
Beverly Griffis Hathorn and husband Doug of Pecos, Tx.
He is also survived by several nieces and nephews and many, many dear friends.
He loyally and honorably served his country in the Vietnam War from
January 10th, 1969- November 16th, 1971.

Service & Burial
Hillcrest Cemetery in Ft. Davis, Texas
Saturday, December 3rd 2011 at 11:00 a.m. with a gathering to follow at Pam and Buster Mills home.
Officiant- Oscar Medley

Tribute-
Laura and John wish to express their sincere thanks for all the prayers, support, flowers and other expressions of love during this time of bereavement.

Our Dad was always a great provider- so great that he gave us his all without the need for us to ever ask for it. He was a man of integrity and devotion. A man who understood a hard day's work. He worked his entire life to take care and provide for his family.

He served his country in the Vietnam War and defended our freedoms with tremendous courage, honor, devotion and loyalty. He is a true American Hero.

His core accomplishment has always been John and I. Our Dad poured vast amounts of love and energy into our lives everyday. He always held our hands in his- and helped us navigate and discover life and the world around us.

He pushed us when needed, stood next us when needed and carried us when we needed it most.

He was so strong, so loyal and so steadfast in ALL he did. He was a man of few words, and when he spoke- all listened because we knew it was well worth listening too.

Dad worshiped at the feet of honesty, honor, loyalty and integrity. People talk of these values, but Dad LIVED them and embraced them. The many awards/medals and accolades that he received during his lifetime for his dedication, hard work, loyalty to family, friends and his country and the RESPECT that we all have for him are a testimony to this.

Dad always soldiered on bravely, no matter the circumstances. He was more concerned about the people he loved than any discomfort or pain he may have been in. To all of us he was a very kind person and was always there to help. He never wanted to be acknowledged for anything he did. When he helped, he simply helped.

His grand-kids were one of his greatest joys in recent years. He knew that LOVE to them was spelled T.I.M.E....and quality time is what he gave them. He spent every second he could building a deep bond that will always stay with them. They will always remember their special times and love from Grandpa Tex.

He was bigger than life, tougher than nails, stubborn and hardheaded. It made us all love him that much more.

As a beloved son, father, brother, uncle, friend, veteran, cousin and amazing grandfather, he leaves us with many memories, stories and an honorable legacy. Always remember him and everything he shared with us. We will carry on our Father's Legacy and keep him with us always.

In His Grip-
Laura Griffis-Potter & John Allen Griffis II

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Struggling...

Struggling...each day to do just the basics I need to do.
I do have faith, do believe and do know that with time...things will get easier. I just feel like I am in a constant fog...a nightmare almost.
I got this today and it calmed me a bit, so I wanted to share it with all of you that are hurting/struggling with the loss of Dad. I wish so badly that I could fix it for all of us ...
but I know I can't.

Keep your thoughts and prayers coming- I do need them.

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Feel every moment to its fullest.
Be present to whatever time it is and embrace the journey as your heart is shaped by the moments of life that refine your character.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

We are home...

Hi All, Just a short note to let you all know that we are back home from Texas. I really can't THANK YOU all enough for all the love, support, encouragement, help and kind deeds that have come our way. The food, cards, flowers, cleaning my home, the Christmas tree that was awaiting us...and turning on our street the night we got home to see Christmas lights and decor up- was both amazing and over-whelming. It means so much to me and Pat and the kids. I have a lot to do still...but it helps so much to know how many people are pulling for us. I am trying to take one day at a time. Love you all and be patient with me if I am not in touch as usual.
Just trying to get my feet back under me.
Love you all dearly-